Comments on: How Safe Is Instinctive Internet Dating?

By: Rushabh Choksi

Rushabh Choksi — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 05:44:41 +0000

@Sakshi – I was in some deserted place and was deprived from my first love internet.lol
@Vivek – I think that cheating someone and recording of inappropriate webcam chats and then selling those clips to earn quick bucks is called misusing.

By: vivek

vivek — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 19:29:45 +0000

@Rushabh off course u r saying that its wrong …. if not then what do u mean when u say “misuse it” ?

By: Sakshi

Sakshi — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 13:14:52 +0000

@Rushab
Long time… neways I completely agree with you in all the points that you have mentioned here. Its always easy to take the short cut as they say.
@ Jaideep
I do not completely agree with you when you say that internet dating is for desperate souls… and that its not serious stuff.

See, the reasons why the closed communities check on your net usage is for the same reason i.e misuse. Pornography is a legal offence under law. Why would you want to misuse the facilities provided for u?? for the thrill of it… but there is no harm in being careful… that is what the post was all about.

By: Rushabh Choksi

Rushabh Choksi — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 05:42:15 +0000

@ Vivek – I am not talking about right or wrong. As Sakshi mentioned the entire post is on how people misuse the facilities provided to them specially my friends.

@ Jaideep – 1) My post is mainly on how my friends use the chat facility therefore I have not covered the other aspects.

2) I am not saying that girls are just innocent victims of male predators on net. I agree that there are many women and men out there to earn quick bucks by showing their skin.

3) The other point that I have mentioned in my post is that people misuse this facility by recording the web cam chat. In these clippings women/men are caught in inappropriate positions. Why do this? The answer is simple that today porn is a multibillion dollar industry. This helps them to earn some extra bucks without much effort. But in the end victims suffer due to their mistakes.

Therefore I just request people to be more careful before revealing too much information (or something else) to their new friend on the net. Otherwise in the end they would end up saying that I can’t believe he/she did this, he/she seemed like such a nice person.’

I hope that this solves all the queries.

PS. I apologies for replying late

By: Jaideep Dave

Jaideep Dave — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 07:55:41 +0000

Only manic desperadoes see Internet dating as seriously as to believe it’ll obtain them a partner. Chat room dating in particular is for juveniles and jobless souls.

Plus, your post gives an impression that girls are just innocent victims of male predators prowling the net. Why reserve sympathies only for chicks? You think there are no sluts in the chatrooms who lure innocent boys? I don’t support any abuse, but it’s obvious there are desperate girls looking for quick action willing to do a Sharon Stone or do a Paris Hilton. Once their actions come to bite them, they wanna pass the buck.

By: vivek

vivek — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 21:05:58 +0000

@Sakshi
“Because at times during and after thosew conversations and after the meeting with your cyber date…we end up hurting the person…”

If you is so dumb , that you believe someone u meet in a public chat room to a extent where u can get hurt by their behavior …than you deserve it.

and about the article and comments … I got a impression that the author is saying that these things are wrong …. and my comment to that is “what people do in these chat rooms is their choice , thats it.

By: Sakshi

Sakshi — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 08:12:22 +0000

@ Vivek
Its not about the right or wrong that the post talks about. Ofcourse, when you have become a major, you are allowed all the freedoms and there is nothing wrong in indulgence also. Its your life you do what you want. What we are talking about is misuse of the same facility. And the misuse is not only by the underage users, its also by the allowed users. Because at times during and after thosew conversations and after the meeting with your cyber date…we end up hurting the person… not only that, often a person would pose as a guy if he is a girl… and vise versa just to have fun. That is where the whole mis use thingy comes into play.

I must mention that all the sites have a warning about all the precautions that one must take…but despite that we overlook that, and end up feeling used. Its about how we handle the whole situation.

By: vivek

vivek — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 20:10:45 +0000

Why do u think this (sleazy talk / cybersex) is a problem , ppl r doing what they want to do and no one is forced to do this ….the only problem I see here is underage users getting into it … but that …i guess ..is the responsibility of their parents to ensure that their children are not doing something that they shud not be doing …..but what adults do on these chat channels is their choice ….we have no right to say that its wrong ….

By: Rushabh Choksi

Rushabh Choksi — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 11:48:32 +0000

@ Prashant – no worries
i hope that you had a great time reading watblog

By: Prashant Priyadarshi

Prashant Priyadarshi — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 11:45:42 +0000

oops.. sorry.. i didn’t read your previous comment..
i read only first comment and directly came to enter my comment.. thanks

By: Rushabh Choksi

Rushabh Choksi — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 11:16:50 +0000

@ Prashant – Thanks for commenting.
In my previous comment I have mentioned about the same issue which is raised by u. Age bar is not a concern as there there is no accurate way to keep a check. It is therefore advisable that people need to be more careful before talking and revealing stuff about them to the strangers.

By: Prashant Priyadarshi

Prashant Priyadarshi — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 11:07:28 +0000

Hey, whats the need of making 18 yrs bar?? those sites are not going to check anyone’s age if he/she entered that he/she is more than 18 yrs.. i personally know lots of guys and girls who are below 18 but they are in orkut or in facebook or in Hi5..

By: Rushabh Choksi

Rushabh Choksi — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 09:02:38 +0000

@ Sakshi – Thanks for commenting. I agree that both men and women are equally responsible for such sleazy talks in the chat rooms.
Talking about the sns they were suppose to be a platform for people to socialize. But they have become more like a matrimonial or dating sites. The age bar is not an issue over here. It is the misuse of services like chat. As there is no accurate way to keep a check on this i guess that people need to be more careful about what they are talking and to whom.

By: Sakshi

Sakshi — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 08:12:42 +0000

A very educating blog. What you are saying is absolutely true. This is a huge flipside to the advancement of technology. Its a very funny syndrome… the chat rooms are the biggest attraction on the www. The easiest place for sleazy talks. And mind you, here you cant blame the men alone for initiating the sex topics… the women too are onely out there…!!! That is the reason that the social networking sites have the 18 age bar… but apparently its fashionable to lie about your age and get cool. Sometimes I wonder are those warnings all in vain…??